actions shout

words mean shit........repentance is useless without actions........words are nothing without actions to prove their intent.

I think I answered my own question (see from a safe distance....), forgiveness has to be given....well, because it has to be (whether it's asked for or not). But trust should not be given until there are actions that can back up sentiments to prove sincerity. Apologies are great for making things feel better (for both parties), but they mean nothing unless actual changes are made. In a situation of wrong-doing, you have to be sorry enough to do something about it. If you just stay in the situation, then all the apology is good for is to make you feel less guilty & more justified in the current state of being.